The Trick to RSVP's

I am a wedding planner and I plan both long-distance and local weddings. Recently, a bride of mine, for whom I am planning a long-distance wedding, had a question regarding her RSVP's. She was wondering how to limit the number of guests each of her invitees would bring. Her concern was that single people would bring dates, friends and/or children that she had not planned to feed. I explained it to her, as I will to you.

Some RSVP card's have the word "Guest(s)" with a line next to the word. If you have a concern like my bride did, this is the kind of RSVP card you will want to send. On the line next to “Guest(s)”, you would write the number of guests that particular invitee is allowed to bring, do not leave this line blank and allow your guest to fill it in themselves unless you are purposely leaving that decision up to them. Being wise in this area will cut your expenses in the long-run..... it WILL save you money and it will keep your guest list at the level you are comfortable with.

In addition to manipulating your guest list with your RSVP cards, it is important to know how to cross-reference the RSVP cards sent out with your guest list. When you have finalized your guest list and are preparing to send out your invitations, number the list, assigning each invitation you are sending out a number. Write the corresponding number in small print on the back of the RSVP card and make certain you slip that RSVP card into the correct addressed envelope. When the RSVP cards come back in pre-addressed and stamped envelopes, you are assured to know who has returned their RSVP cards. This is of course in case you do not write their names on the RSVP card and they, given the responsibility, neglect that duty.

These tips will help ensure your guest list stays organized. RSVP cards are a key factor in determining your wedding guest list as well as to help finalize your budget. Stick to these pointers and make your last minute planning a bit easier.

Written by: Carla McCurthon